Seven Ways to Stop Breaking Our Own Hearts – Part 3




This article is specifically directed to women. However, the principles are applicable to all persons. I don’t agree with everything here asserted. But, “eat the fish and throw out the bones.”






Dina Strada
is an L.A. based Event Planner, Author, and Certified Life Coach specializing in relationships and empowering women. She has most recently been featured as a Contributing Author in the powerful new book, “Simply Women: Stories from 30 Magnificent Women Who Have Risen Against the Odds”.


I’ve lost count how many times my own heart has been broken. I could argue that the breaking of my heart was done to me by another person. I could easily make myself the victim of my stories of heartache and loss. But I’ve come to realize that in each situation, I had a choice. And my choices were the cause of many broken hearts.I am in no way suggesting that we won’t sometimes have our heart broken by another person when we do everything right, even when we make the best choices for ourselves. Because that’s part of life. Our hearts are fragile and vulnerable to the actions of others.

5. Always honor your real feelings. Some of us try so hard to fight our real feelings—whether they’re toward a person, a relationship, a situation or a decision somebody else is pressing us to make—we go one way when our heart and intuition are screaming something entirely different.

We live in a society that dictates a lot of “shoulds.” I should be strong. I should be attracted to this kind of person. I should do the responsible thing and not pursue this passion that is calling to my heart every single day. Not honoring our most authentic self and desires will always break our hearts. Every single time.

6. Love yourself. That’s right. Love and accept every single thing about yourself. The good, the bad and the ugly. The perceived flaws and weaknesses. The things about yourself you think (or others think) need fixing. This is what makes you, you.

Trying to be someone you’re not. Trying to mold yourself into something you think you need to be, or hating yourself for the way you are—whether it’s sensitive, impatient, gullible, moody, too short, too fat, too loud, whatever it is. This will break your heart every time.

We are all unique, special and incredible to the people in our lives who truly love and care about us. So surround yourself with those people and love on yourself more than anyone. Because you can’t expect other people to love you if you aren’t doing the same.


Author: Dina Strada

Image: Lauren Treece/Flickr 

Editor: Catherine Monkman